copyright pyschscribe 2009
copyright pyschscribe 2009
Commentary: I wonder how many hits mapquest has lost as a result of the GPS…Then again, I used to sometimes get poor directions from Mapquest as well….
Nice to know our soldiers can maintain a sense of humor!
You know you’ve been hit when you feel stung, shot right between the eyes, express hurt, and the shooter retorts: “What’s the matter? I was just giving you a little constructive criticism!” This is their defense posture because now they’re feeling criticized by your reaction to their criticism. It’s supposed to mean they were “only trying to help you”.
In the first place, if you’d wanted their opinion you would have asked for it. These people have never learned the old saying, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” Worse yet, these are often the very same people who once taught us this very thing, but they think that because they’re our parents they somehow have an exemption.
Criticism is the expression of disapproval of someone based on perceived faults in them or their behavior. So constructive criticism is an oxymoron.
Destructive Criticism :
That haircut makes your face look chubby, dear.
Didn’t anyone ever teach you not to make disgusting noises when you eat, sweetheart?
Have you noticed that your gut is beginning to hang over your belt?
Honey, no offense but you sing like a baboon.
When are you going to learn that not everyone is interested in your long, boring stories?
You really over indulge that child.
You’d better stop feeding her so much or she’s going to turn into a whale.
When I raised my son he got his underwear ironed.
Why are you wearing so much makeup? Did they have a sale down at Macy’s?
Most of us have been victims of such remarks at one time or another. But you don’t have to stay a victim. You can have an a ready response in your arsenal should a shooter appear disguised as a friend or loved one.
The obvious one that I started with was “If I wanted your opinion I would have asked for it.” But that doesn’t fit everyone’s personality style. Others might include:
“Thank you for your kind, gentle, and sincere help.”
“You can withdraw your fangs now, I get the message.”
“I have a headache tonight. And I’ll have one tomorrow night too.”
“You’re beginning to sound just like my mother.”
You get the idea. Disclaimer: I’m not talking healthy communication responses here. I’m talking good old fashioned getting even. Because once in a while, lets be honest here, it just feels good to take a shot at the shooter.
Lord help me. He only gets sick once a year, but when he does my hero turns into my worst nightmare. I truly appreciate that he patiently takes care of me all the rest of the year above and beyond the call of duty, with my lupus and all, but BOY…paybacks are a bitch! He won’t let me take care of him… he wants me to take care of him…. he doesn’t need help…he does need help. I am trying not to get too close physically so I don’t catch his germs. He finds this to be insulting. When I tell him that I miss his hugs, he looks accusingly at me like its all my fault. I’m also supposed to be a mindreader. When I ask him if he’s hungry, he’s not. Five minutes later I find him cooking himself some soup and sneezing into it. Mmmm….yummy…He then graciously offers me some, which I graciously decline.. And, worst of all, he’s a VERY cranky patient who isn’t a patient.
And just so you know, Alpha Males don’t marry Florence Nightingales. Truthfully, I HATE being a nurse.
I hope I don’t get sick for Thanksgiving 😦