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© Psychscribe 2009
“If you watch how nature deals with adversity, continually renewing itself, you can’t help but learn” Bernie Siegel
(12 week sonogram found on youtube- NOT OUR BABY!)
I cannot even begin to describe what an experience it was to see the baby on the sonogram. I stood next to my son-in-law, my daughter of course on the examining table, holding her husband’s hand, as we watched in awe. That was no flat, lifeless screen as shown in the photo on my previous post. It was like an in utero video. At twelve weeks he was moving around, very active, and even sucking his thumb! There we were, three adults, dumbstruck. “Oh wow!” was pretty much the extent of the conversation from all three of us while the tech did her thing. My daughter’s “oh how cute!!!!!” periodically punctuated the conversation. She, as we all did, really melted when we saw the thumb sucking. That and our repeated question “is it a boy or a girl????” The tech kept demurring that she couldn’t be certain at twelve weeks, but finally, having found the penis, she announced “Its a boy!”
We all exclaimed in joy! My daughter was no longer carrying an “it” but a male baby. From the moment I heard it, I no longer felt merely the excitement of the pregnancy. Now he had an identity. I felt love for him . For that tiny little guy so active inside his mom. For Baby V, already named before his mom even got pregnant.
At twelve weeks, this baby was no future unknown. This baby was now.
And I feel so very honored that they invited me to participate in this intimate, joyous stage of their journey. I love all three of them with all my heart.
This is the Delaware River, walking distance from my house. Sure can’t wait to see some green!
This wonderful collaboration grew from my two friends at Cafe Crem, Susan Cornelis and Kevin Moore. There’s so much more to discover about their talent:
Artist: Susan Cornelis
Website: Imagine with Art
Art Blog: Susan’s Art and Sketchbook Blog
Composer and Musician: Kev Moore
Blog: Cafe Crem
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© TimeSnatcher 2009 ” WINTER SUN”
© TimeSnatcher 2009
Well, you may as well get used to it. I’ve fallen in love with photography so I will be posting my efforts regularly here. I’ll be numbering them just like I do the Psychscribe Quotes, only with the new domain name I bought: TimeSnatcher. (That way you can also avoid my humble beginnings if you choose.)
Listen to the silent wail of swaying, naked treetops.
Watch them blindly seeking cold comfort
from the dark indifferent sky,
as howling winter winds whisper :
night is stalking.
So since a picture speaks a thousand words, I need to say more in this language this morning:
This one was inspired by sorrentolens after viewing his wonderful photo “Speared Gate” :
Ok, a professional I’m not…but Santa did bring me my camera so I can’t resist showing you my first attempts…
River Through Winter Trees
What if today is the last day of my life?
These are the kinds of things you think of when you’ve had a stroke. I’m having symptoms which are scaring me, but I’ve spoken to my internist, and my rheumatologist’s nurse. Neither thinks its an emergency. She’s comfortable waiting for the rhuematologist to get to the office in a couple of hours to run my symptoms by him.
But I’m thinking it might be an emergency. For that matter, anything in life might be. A car accident. A heart attack. Getting struck by lightening. I got struck by my stroke four years ago this month, actually. You don’t exactly expect these things. But once you’ve had a stroke, and you read the statistics for recurrence, you become acutely aware of your physical vulnerability and of course your own mortality.
Most days I remember to thank God that I’m alive and alert and have no noticeable loss of physical function, from which He miraculously spared me.I thank him for my family, and my work, and for every beautiful aspect of the four seasons as I experience them, day by day.
Of the legions of doctors I’ve met with for my various health issues, no one can believe that the perfectly normal looking, active professional woman sitting before them matches the carnage of a brain in the MRI also sitting before them.
But today I’m more focused on wondering if today is the last day of my life. No one, of course, knows the date of their death. Yet every living creature, on one particular point in the line of time, wakes up one morning… and no longer exists the next.
Think about that. Wakes up one morning and no longer exists the next.
So feeling as I am this morning, I have to ask myself…what if? And what comes to mind, first, is that I have not managed to get into a personal relationship with God. With Christ. Other Christians talk about it but I don’t know what that means. (If my sister is reading this I’m in deep trouble!)
A personal relationship with the Almighty???? I picture the Almighty Presence, that gorgeous glow in the sunshine, spilling through the tree leaves and the clouds. I feel Him, and I see Him, in the wind. I pray to him and to His son. I thank Them. I beseech Them. I acknowledge them. But..it doesn’t feel personal…. more like wonder from afar…
The Christians I hang out with “walk closely” with the Lord. I go to bible study with them but truthfully it feels like The Emperor’s new clothes when they talk of their relationship with the Lord, of their experiences of deep connection with Him. I myself have felt a deep connection to nature, His creation, since I was a child. ..But that’s not what they’re talking about…. So if today is the last day of my life, and I go to meet my Maker, will He welcome me? Will he know me?
I have no doubt of heaven. None. I know. I’ve had signs. I feel it in my soul to be true that I will be going home again. And my earthly family members who have passed before me will be waiting there to welcome me…with much rejoicing, to use a biblical word.
Then there are my husband and kids. But I’m getting tired now, and that’s another whole post. (There will be a Part 2 to this post not long from now.)
And since I started writing this, I got a message from my doctor not to worry. No emergency. Thank you God that its not my time today.
At least I think not.
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“There is nothing in a caterpillar that tells you it’s going to be a butterfly.” Buckminster Fuller
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“Look not back in anger nor ahead in fear, but think of now with awareness.” Author Unknown
I chose this quote for my high school yearbook. I have no idea how it surfaced through the years to my conscious memory, but wow! That 18 year old girl must have had some precognition that the quoted lesson would be one I so needed to eventually learn (and teach my future clients).
And learning it I am. Even more aware of the beauty of nature than I’ve been all my life (if thats posssible),seeing it, smelling it, feeling it on my skin, melding with it, morphing with it, feeling it in every inch of my body and soul. Its a beautiful autumn here in the northeast…
How long are YOU able to stay in the present moment? Have you thought about that? Have you thought about the fact that when you are TRULY in the present moment you can’t worry or feel anxious because that’s about the future? Are you letting the simple joys of the present moment slip away into tomorrows that may never come?
What are your favorite ways of staying present? Staying in the present is a present you give to yourself.
First let me preface this by saying that I am not one of those people who thinks that individuals can be neatly categorized into labeled boxes. But behavioral tendencies are fun and interesting to think about.
My previous posts on alpha males have received so much interest that I decided to look up more about the other males…the rest of the story. Here’s what wikipedia has to say (hardly a definitive or professional guide, IMO, but a jumping off place for thought and discussion).
“In social animals, the alpha male is the individual in the community to whom the others follow and defer. Where one male and one female fulfill this role, they are referred to as the alpha pair. In some groups, the alpha males and females are overrepresented in the genetics of a population if they are the only ones who breed successfully.
Chimpanzees show deference to the alpha of the community by ritualised gestures such as bowing, allowing the alpha to walk first in a procession, or standing aside when the alpha challenges. Canines also show deference to the alpha pair in their pack, by allowing them to be the first to eat and, usually, the only pair to mate; wolves are a good example of this. The status of the alpha is generally achieved by means of superior physical prowess; however, in certain highly social species such as the bonobo and humans, a contender can use more indirect methods, such as political alliances, to oust the ruling alpha and take his place.
Beta and omega
In the power hierarchy of the human group, two other roles also are defined and named. First, the beta male, which is the contender, subservient to the alpha male, but only after testing. The betas act as second-in-command and can either be dethroned alpha males or future alphas if they persist in challenging the regnant alpha male. The term omega (ω) is an antonym often used in a deprecating or self-deprecating manner to refer to member at the bottom of the social hierarchy. The omega is subservient to all members.”
So…are you a beta or omega male? Do you typically befriend or fall in love with one? What’s that like for you?
This is sooo worth watching 🙂
An article in Science Daily reports that Swedish researchers have found some physical attributes of the homosexual brain to resemble those found in the opposite sex.
The brains of heterosexual men and homosexual women are slightly asymmetric—the right hemisphere is larger than the left—and the brains of gay men and straight women are not.
In connectivity of the amygdala (which is important for emotional learning), lesbians resemble straight men, and gay men resemble straight women.
So…….maybe moral choice regarding this issue, with all the negative moral judgements attached to it, really does come down to natural, biological chance. And doesn’t everyone deserve a chance to be who they were created to be?
Hey I am so excited- I just took my first few photos ever (going for pretty, or artistic, rather than friends standing in a row next to each other either grinning or fake smiling) – So this header is created by yours truly 🙂
The creative process is SUCH good therapy, wouldn’t you agree?
Please refer back to my previous post, Relationships Can Be So Hard Part 1 before reading this one:
Live Science reports that female chimps often cry out during sex (better known to scientists as “copulation calling”) to attract nearby males, but they keep quiet when other females are around so they don’t alert their competition, a new study finds.
The hypothesis has long been that the females advertise their sexually receptive state in this way in order to attract potential mates, apparently to have them fight over the female and ensure mating with the strongest male in the group and have the strongest offspring. (Here we go with the alpha male thing again….)
Instead, female chimpanzees seem to use the copulation calls strategically to enlist the future protective support of males against aggressive group members, especially other females. The females produced more calls when high-ranking males were around, but kept quiet during their mating when high-ranking females were nearby.
“The female chimps we observed in the wild seemed to be much more concerned with having sex with many different males, without other females finding out about it, than causing male chimps to fight over them,” the one of the researchers, Simon Townsend, says.
He states that this strategy might minimize the risks of competition, because competition between females can be dangerously high in wild chimpanzees.
He actually thinks that because females make the calls not only during their fertile period, but also when they’re not in the mood (uh..excuse me, I mean sexually receptive) when they are most likely to conceive, they are acting something like the chimp equivalent of gold diggers.
“Copulation calling therefore may be one potential strategy employed by female chimpanzees to advertise their receptivity to high-ranked males, confuse paternity, and secure future support from these socially important individuals,” Townsend said.
So is he calling female chimps promiscuous manipulators? No wonder our poor chimp couple looks so miserable. We now know that the male is painfully and rightfully insecure, but as for her…well… check out her expression… Its like: get over it.. I am who I am.. girls will be girls…
The findings were published on June 18 in the online journal PLoS ONE. The study was funded by the BiotechnologAy and Biological Sciences Research Council of the United Kingdom, an EU Pathfinder grant
“Integrity is who you are when no one is looking.” Author Unknown
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Just up the road from a home is a field, with two horses in it.