Jennifer Hudson “Domestic Issues”

By now we all know that Jennifer Hudson’s mother and brother were recently murdered. The media, noting that there is a male suspect,  reports a history of “domestic issues”. 

That phrase, or its twin “domestic dispute” is a  terribly  insidious euphemism. It suggests an issue or dispute over who left the socks on the floor or disagreements over household operations. When you hear it often enough in the news, the real meaning becomes so diluted that its impact upon society  becomes diluted.

For purposes of my post this morning, let me give you the exact definition I found at good old 

euphemism – the substitution of a mild, indirect, or vague expression for one thought to be offensive, harsh, or blunt.

Of course domestic violence is what’s really being substituted here.  Bland domestic disputes don’t result in a woman calling the police for help. Bland domestic disputes don’t invoke public outrage or action.  I worked for two years in an agency for battered women. Speaking from first hand experience, here are what “domestic disputes” and “domestic issues” look like. And yes, these images are offensive, harsh, and blunt.  Just like the domestic violence that was committed against women such as these. 


One out of every four women is assaulted by an intimate partner every day. We need more public awareness, education, advocacy and funds to help a cause much closer to home than we might think. Domestic violence crosses all socioeconomic lines.  It could happen to you, your sister, your mother, your daughter. It’s about time the legal system stopped protecting the public from offensive, harsh reality and started protecting the victims of the offensive, harsh reality.
If you need help, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.

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5 Responses to “Jennifer Hudson “Domestic Issues””

  1. Amber Says:

    You know… I have to agree. Those words seem so empty. Its so sad to me!

  2. Says:

    Hello there!

    This is just so very sad.

    I hope that it is also a wake up call to black people to STOP coddling mentally ill relatives and shrugging off their behavior and threats with “he’s trippin” and “she’s trippin”.

    How many black folks will NOT even use the word “mentally ill” to describe the dangerous persons in their own families??

    Let this be a wake up call to stop mimimizing this pathology in our own families.

    I pray for the comfort and healing of this family.

    Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!

  3. SanityFound Says:

    Thanks for this, am glad that people care and try to help, it warms me beyond any words that I can write here and touches my heart.

  4. Weekly Fruit Salad ~ עשרים מספר אחת « SanityFound’s Rambling’s Says:

    […] I am soooo RICH in monopoly money, how bout you? Ah the week really has been an interesting one.  No, I repeat no, this will not become a “Domestic Issue” […]

  5. psychscribe Says:

    Lisa: Thank you so much for visiting. You make such valid points. Blessings to you and I hope you come back again to read my blog.

    Amber & San: Of course you feel as I do, my friends. Thanks for the comments.

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