Archive for June, 2008

Illness Caused by Stress? Or Not….?

June 29, 2008

I just found this artifact of life before computers on Makes a good lead in for what I’ve got for you today: an interesting, tongue in cheek essay that you might enjoy too, in todays’ New York Times Magazine. I guess this means I’m emerging from my murderous funk: 

 The Way We Live Now by Peggy Orenstein

I don’t FEEL like counting my blessings

June 27, 2008

I think I do count them frequently on my blog, but today is not one of those days. I’m down with a flare again. I’m in pain which the pain killers dull but do not eradicate. Had to cancel plans  with my sister, my son, and my daughter. I was really looking forward to them. I realize I did just count three blessings, but you know what I mean. Please don’t anyone point my blessings out to me by way of comment because I will have to ban you from my blog. I mean, what would


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 I do with all this anger????? And if anyone asks me what advice do you give your clients, they are also banned from my blog. Is anyone out there having as bad a day as I am? 

I can’t believe you read this far. 

“Author Unknown” finds her post here

June 25, 2008

I had posted this quote, author unknown, on 12/15/07. Today the author contacted me and identified herself. Her son had recognized her quote and pointed her this way. I think its only fair to quote her again with proper attribution so here it is. And  anyone who likes my site should visit hers – she is definitely another kindred soul…:

“”In and out… up and down…. over and over…. she wove her strands of her life together….patching hole after hole…eventually she saw it was much more than the threads which gave her strength….it was in the very act of weaving, itself, that she became strong.”Author Unknown

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Flickr banned from my blog

June 24, 2008

I had it on here because I thought that random photos appearing on my blog would add an element of interest.  And until today it did. But I just saw one that is truly evil looking – a black and white photo of a woman with what appears to be a plastic bag over her face. That’s not art, in my blog. Its objectification of women to the degree of horror.

10 Things You Didn’t Know About Me Meme

June 24, 2008

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Ok, here we go, my first Meme- I was tagged by my friend SanityFound

1. I absolutely can’t stand whining.

2. I’m a binge eater of ice cream, preferably vanilla

3. My favorite TV show is Boston Legal.

4. I hate long blog posts because I have the attention span of a gnat. So I try to read the shorter posts of my blogger friends to keep up with what’s going on with them.

5. I admire Hilary Clinton

6. When I was 6, in catholic school, the nun wouldn’t let me leave for the rest room so i wet myself right at my desk and was reprimanded before the entire class.  That was 50 years ago and I still feel  ashamed as I write this.

7. I do not like nuns.

8. Despite my health issues, I consider this 5th decade of my life to be the most fulfilling.

9. My favorite colors are purple and turquoise.

10.I really don’t want to hear my friends’ problems when I get home from work, because that’s what I do for a living all day long.  And what I love about my blogger friends is they never ask me for advice!

Ooops! I just remembered a really important one:

11. I screen phone calls, even from people I love. Because I hate chatting on the phone. I’d rather be reading, or doing decoupage, or hanging out with my husband watching a movie in bed. lets see…now I’m supposed to tag 10 people…well, that’s the price you pay for being on my blogroll, guys! I tag:

Bill Howdle



Madame Monet

Mary Eileen Williams







I Will Remember You

June 23, 2008

A touching video produced by a daughter who lost her mother to lupus:

Therapist! Practice What You Preach!

June 23, 2008

What a weekend! Major issues with my sister that grew into a full blown cat fight in the middle of a restaurant, with both our husbands ducking for cover. I kid you not. She even flung a napkin or something that ended up at another table, much to the delight of those patrons…it had to do with all kinds of chick stuff the grist of which fuels the book and film industry not to mention Lifetime Channel… Anyway I write this as a fairly anonymous confession…we  therapists preach non-reactivity but even we lose it sometimes!!!!

Another new creative outlet

June 22, 2008

Hey I am so excited- I just took my first few photos ever (going for pretty, or artistic, rather than friends standing in a row next to each other either grinning or fake smiling) – So this header is created by yours truly 🙂
The creative process is SUCH good therapy, wouldn’t you agree?

Hi Functioning Lupus People?

June 20, 2008

We lupus folks (that word makes me sound ancient)…I mean dudes (well that sounds ridiculous) – ok, PEOPLE never hear much about people who have had the diagnosis for a long time but still manage to live and work and love pretty much as before…except for the flares of course… Is there anyone out there who can respond to this? I’m looking for HOPE here people – not the inspirational kind, I have my God who sustains me – but rather human experiences…

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Psychscribe Quote # 36

June 19, 2008

Love is what you’ve been through with somebody. James Thurber


Relationships Can Be So Hard (Part 2)

June 18, 2008

Please refer back to my previous post, Relationships Can Be So Hard Part 1  before reading this one:

 Live Science reports that female chimps often cry out during sex (better known to scientists as “copulation calling”) to attract nearby males, but they keep quiet when other females are around so they don’t alert their competition, a new study finds. 

The hypothesis has long been that the females advertise their sexually receptive state in this way in order to attract potential mates, apparently to have them fight over the female  and ensure mating with the strongest male in the group and have the strongest offspring. (Here we go with the alpha male thing again….)

Instead, female chimpanzees seem to use the copulation calls strategically to enlist the future protective support of males against aggressive group members, especially other females. The females produced more calls when high-ranking males were around, but kept quiet during their mating when high-ranking females were nearby.

“The female chimps we observed in the wild seemed to be much more concerned with having sex with many different males, without other females finding out about it, than causing male chimps to fight over them,” the one of the researchers, Simon Townsend, says. 

He states that this strategy might minimize the risks of competition, because competition between females can be dangerously high in wild chimpanzees. 

He actually thinks that because females make the calls not only during their fertile period, but also when they’re not in the mood (uh..excuse me, I mean sexually receptive)  when they are most likely to conceive, they are acting something like the chimp equivalent of gold diggers.  

“Copulation calling therefore may be one potential strategy employed by female chimpanzees to advertise their receptivity to high-ranked males, confuse paternity, and secure future support from these socially important individuals,” Townsend said.

So is he calling female chimps promiscuous manipulators? No wonder our poor chimp couple looks so miserable.  We now know that the male is painfully and rightfully insecure, but as for her…well… check out her expression… Its like: get over it.. I am who I am.. girls will be girls…

The findings were published on June 18 in the online journal PLoS ONE. The study was funded by the BiotechnologAy and Biological Sciences Research Council of the United Kingdom, an EU Pathfinder grant 

Lupus Worse in Southern European Ancestry

June 17, 2008

That would be me… 100% southern European ancestry…of which I’ve always been, and still am, so proud… But I found this article today: 

“Systemic lupus erythematosus (SLE) patients with a higher percentage of ancestry from southern Europe have more severe disease manifestations, according to new research presented at EULAR 2008, the Annual Congress of the European League Against Rheumatism in Paris, France. “

Psychscribe Quote # 35

June 15, 2008

“Integrity is who you are when no one is looking.” Author Unknown

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LOST – Jack or Sawyer?

June 14, 2008

Ok….naughty Psych is thinking….if you HAD to spend the night with either Jack or Sawyer, and it would bring about world peace, and the cure for all diseases…and NO repercussions from your partner….who would you pick….Jack or Sawyer?  😉



Psychscribe Quote #34

June 13, 2008

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         “Love dies only when growth stops.” Pearl S. Buck

Two Horses

June 12, 2008

Just up the road from 
a home is a field, with two horses in it.
From a distance, each horse looks like any other horse. But if you stop your car, or are walking by, you will notice something quite amazing….
Looking into the eyes of one horse will disclose that he is blind.  His owner has chosen not to have him put down, but has made a good home for him.
This alone is amazing.
If you stand nearby and listen, you will hear the sound of a bell.  
Looking around for the source of the sound, you will see that it comes from the smaller horse in the field.
Attached to the horse’s halter is a small bell.
It lets the blind friend know where the other horse is, so he can follow.
As you stand and watch these two friends,
you’ll see that the horse with the bell is always checking on the blind horse, and that the blind horse will listen for the bell and then slowly walk
to where the other horse is, trusting that he will not be led astray.
When the horse with the bell returns  to the shelter of the barn each
evening, it stops occasionally and looks back, making sure that the blind
friend isn’t too far behind to hear the bell.
Like the owners of these two horses,
God does not throw us away just because we are not perfect
or because we have problems or challenges.
He watches over us and even brings others into our lives
to help us when we are in need.
Sometimes we are the blind horse
being guided by the little ringing bell of those who God places in our lives.
Other times we are the guide horse, helping others to find their way….
Good friends are like that… you may not always see them, but you know they are always there.
Please listen for my bell and I’ll listen for yours. 
And remember…
be kinder than necessary-
everyone you meet is fighting
some kind of battle.    

Rev. Robert H. Schuller 

Relationships Can Be So Hard..(Part 1)

June 11, 2008

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No Kids – Not by Choice

June 10, 2008

Ok, so I had to sneak in a quasi post  (a  little withdrawal here )  offering you a link to a great article in today’s NY Times about people who struggle with infertility treatments and finally make the choice to stop this invasion of their lives and souls. I hope it helps someone.

Time out from blogging

June 2, 2008

My Dear Friends and Readers,

As some of you have noticed, I haven’t posted for a while.  I just wanted to let you know I”m still here, and healthy, but unable to keep up with the blogging right now. My daughter’s bridal shower is Sunday, her wedding is in Sept., and it feels like I never have a moment to myself as exciting as it all is.  But I’ll be lurking and occasionally commenting on your posts, so beware!

Other than that, talk to you soon.