When you’re starting to feel attracted to someone else, think but don’t act. Analyze what it is that you’re getting from this attraction or flirtation, then go home and ask your partner for it. Is it attention? Say it! Is it some fantasy of wild or unusual sex? Say it! Does this person boost your ego, make you feel special? Tell your partner that’s what you’re needing. Do you want sex more frequently? Say it!
Then be prepared to listen. That’s right, listen. Find out what your partner needs and wants. Find out why your needs have not been met, and listen with an open mind. Listen to what your part of this disconnect has been.You might be surprised that you both want the very same things, and you’ll be saving yourself and your family from a lot of grief and pain.